On Saturday, my daughter went to a belt test and was awarded her yellow belt. I am very proud of her. It is not always easy being one of the only teenage girls training and recently she has been attending a few adult classes. I was very hesitant for her to step over into the adult class. Maybe I was scared or nervous or not ready for her to experience some of those things that come with being a girl in the adult class. You see, in the kids class and even in the teen class, it is a lot easier being the only girl. I guess kids haven't morphed into all the stereotypical male/female roles yet. They are just kids being kids and having fun doing BJJ. She's done a few adult classes now, but I can't say that my nerves are completely settled. I just have all these fears...what if some new dude is inappropriate with her...what if someone is too rough with her...what if someone hurts her.... and the list could go on forever...because I will always be her overprotective, worry-wart of a Mom. Maybe I shouldn't worry so much. I know that our Elite instructors will take care of her. I know that if anyone does anything inappropriate that the "MAT POLICE" will take care of them. I know in my heart that she is tough and strong and has skills, but I will worry anyway. But I will learn to let go a little bit at a time and let her make this journey in her own way. She was just bubbling with excitement after her belt test. I can't help but share this note she wrote.
"Had the most A M A Z I N G D A Y E V E R ! Received my yellow belt in Jiu Jitsu. I'm pouring with amazement & joy & happiness & well I'm just E C S T A T I C ! Thanks to my mom who is always encouraging & has that deep fire in her heart to keep going & pushing me along the way when I want to stop! & thanks to all my instructors who never gave up on me. Who helped me. Who got me to where I am now. Thanks Everyone, who ever gave me any kind of encouragement. You guys at Elite MMA are absolutely amazing."
It renews my spirit and makes my fire burn brighter to hear those words from a 14-year old girl!! I want that for myself...amazement, joy, happiness...to be E C S T A T I C. Heck, I want that for everyone. We should approach this jiu jitsu journey with all those things and more. If you're not feeling those things anymore, take a break, figure out why, re-focus and start over.
My Girl after getting her yellow belt!!
A very happy, relaxed 11-year boy having fun at the Science Museum!
I'm going to close with some very wise words from my friend (The Teacher Mom Donut-Eating MMA Lady). This is from her blog post "I Train Brazilian Jiu Jitsu".